Let me start and say that I was not a dancer. I mean, yes, when I was five I was in ballet and tap – and that ended there. So, when my child wanted to dance – we went in blindly. I was friends with the owner of a dance studio and she thought my daughter would love it. Turns out – she did.
So, when I think back to what I learned while she was dancing, I won’t say I am the most successful dance mom – but I sure keep learning.
We had a class to learn the proper way to do hair when I first started. I learned how to do a bun – but I am still not super great – we started with a bump to bun – now it is just a bun – but it is what it is. A tight bun is hard to achieve and getting it high with no bumps and getting it gelled or sprayed up – takes skill. My hats off to those who can do it well. A high pony is another master skill – I have found with my daughter and her thin hair – the more ponytail holders – the better. Every dance studio has different guidelines for hair, and I am sure they are great at teaching you mad skills.
Makeup is another situation to master when a dance mom. I’m not fabulous with a eyeliner wing, but working on it. Some of the dancers are really good at makeup and depending on age, you can get them to practice and work at it themselves. It seems the younger the dancer – the more the glitter – but every dance depends. As a parent, I need to make sure we have the correct color lipstick for each dance – some red or pink.
If you are a dance mom, you probably know that with each dance comes different costumes, shoes, hair piece, tights, and props – but please, no props. It is best to be organized. I might cover this later – but I have found that I have a bag for each costume and that helps when we get to competitions. There is a reason that many dancers have huge bags to go to competitions – it is to hold all of the things. There are a lot of things!!!And sometimes, the bigger = better. There are a few big dance bags I would recommend – the Dream Duffel. Rack Monsters
Every judge judges differently. I have been to enough competitions where some judges like tappers, and some don’t. Some judges like fun dances, and some like serious dances. Every judge is different. I just like to tell my dancer that I enjoy watching her dance. I enjoy watching her do what she loves. We have learned not to get upset if one judge doesn’t love you and not to gloat when you win. Dancing does teach a dancer to be humble. Dancing teaches you that everyone interprets your dance in a different way. I try to tell all the dancers that I enjoyed their dance if I see it. I try to make my dancer proud of just going out and doing what she loves.
Dancing takes many hours and hard work. We started with one dance. Then we worked our way to more dances. Hard work and many hours go into perfecting dances to work on stage. Dancers learn spacing and timing and choreography. All of these help mold, move, and change with each dance. The bruises my daughter had and the callouses on her feet – all with the time and energy and effort to dance and strive to be the best.
I learned how to bling a costume. I mean – with mad tools and glue and timing and crystals. There are so many tools to bling with as well. And use the right crystals and glue. I am crafty so I really enjoy this – but my studio is really in charge and I go with the flow.
I am a driver and I make reservations. I am the person who keeps up with the bills and there are tons of bills. Maybe I will do another post and let you know all it entails. I have learned to do this well.
I have learned to motivate my child when needed. And console when needed. And be quiet when necessary.
Dancers have a gift. They have to love what they do and perform in front of others.
What dance tips do you have or what did I leave out???